Thursday, November 19, 2009

Stuff I want to write more about

I think the time has come to make this blog a little less self-referential and maybe, just maybe, a little bit less of a self-indulgent pity party. I think this will make it more interesting and hopefully draw more readers, thereby leading to actual conversations and dialogue, which will hopefully give me some relevance, which will lead to even more conversations and dialogue, which will bring even more relevance, etc. I think you see where I'm going with this.

In this spirit, here are a couple of closely related subjects I would like to write more about:

Attraction - i.e. what is it that women are really attracted to in a man? Some of my sources for this subject include the work done by Lovesystems and published in their e-book Magic Bullets (which of course is derived from Mystery Method). Lovesystems, of course, used to be called The Mystery Method Corporation, until Mystery left to become part of Venusian Arts. David Deida's Way of the Superior Man is another good source. I will very likely reference some Roissy posts as well. Also, there is a frequent commenter at Roissy that goes by aliasclio. She made some comments the other day that really stuck with me.

Clio has her own blog here.

The Roissy post that she was commenting on is here.

Realistic Dating Strategy
- this is a subject I started mulling over a number of months ago. The basic premise here is that when you think about it in terms of long-term outcomes, the Community really doesn't serve the needs of most of the guys that seek it out. There are all sorts of reasons for this, which I plan to go into more detail about, but the bottom line is that most guys simply aren't going to become true Players. By itself, that's fine. In fact, if you talk to most guys, they'll probably tell you that isn't their goal anyway. But, the way the Community is set up, the marketing, hype, and mentality really pushes the idea that this is what the goal is. So, the question I'm trying to answer is this: short of completely dedicating himself for months, or even years, to becoming this great player, a master seducer of women, what is a realistic strategy that would help the average guy improve his social life and his prospects with women? I DO think that learning some Game is an important part of this effort. But, I think there's a lot to be said for spending more time on other stuff. Some guys, for instance, really need to develop their conversational skills. I think that's a big one - having the ability to talk to and truly engage almost anyone.

I'm really, really interested in feedback on these ideas.


AR said...

Sean Messenger says....the only thing that turns a woman on is being desired by a man.

I think that's pretty much true dude. I don't know how it works. Unfortunately the same nerve endings that tickle the 'gina sometimes also induce inexplicable brattiness, selfishness, and narcissism.

Silas Reinagel said...

In some ways it seems that the difference between a dedicated player and an average guy looking to increase his game is only one of degree, not of direction. While the alpha male may go and approach 400 women in a month and schedule 12-20 dates, someone who is less driven may only approach 15-20 women in a month and get 1-2 dates.

The alpha male, because of his dedication, will hone his craft much faster and become a master seducer. The ordinary guy, who isn't as driven to pursue reams of women, will find that his game increases slightly, but not as much.

However, the same skills are needed for both: learning how to read women, presenting yourself as interesting, utilizing kino well and so forth...

Anonymous said...

Hey Rake - do you have an email address set up for this blog? (like how Roissy set up a fake name address that he lists on his contact page). I've got some longer thoughts on day game, etc. that I don't want to clog up the comments section with.

11minutes said...

what is it that women are really attracted to in a man?

One word: POWER

power over yourself (strength of will, discipline and poise)

power over others (intelligence, wit, assertiveness, social dominance, leadership and initiative)

power over her (mental and physical)

anything else you hear about STATUS, INFLUENCE, PRESENCE, CONFIDENCE are just synonyms and/or consequences of the one and only female desire: a powerful man.

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Master said...

Hey there Rake...

Did you know I'm in Seattle, too? At least, currently. I'd be very interested to hear your take on this town.

Incidentally, I see from your profile you are a big Malcolm Gladwell fan. Have you seen the various takedowns of him as a sham intellectual? Go check out Steve Sailer's takedown of him at isteve.